Saturday, January 1, 2011

a whole lotta 2010 reflecting...

I have two quotes that I stumbled across in 2010 (thanks to my lovely book club which I love to no end) that sum up the past year for me, here they are...

"When did I first experience the exquisite sense of surrender that is possible only with another person? The peace of mind one experiences on one's own, one's certainty of self in the serenity of solitude, are nothing in comparison to the release and openness and fluency one shares with another, in close companionship." --Elegance of the Hedgehog p. 277

"...I have finally concluded, maybe that's what life is about; there is a lot of despair, but also the odd moment of beauty, where time is no longer the same. It's as if those strains of music created a sort of interlude in time, something suspended, an elsewhere that had come to us, an always within never. Yes, that's it an always within never....Because from now on, for you, I'll be searching for those moments of always within never. Beauty, in this world." --Elegance of the Hedgehog p. 325

When I look back on 2010, the things that bring me the most joy are the people that I was fortunate enough to share so much of the year with. This past year, the bay has felt more like home than ever and I fully attribute that to the amazing network of friends that I am lucky enough to have here - life is truly so much sweeter when you get to share it with people that you love, respect and are inspired by. Lindsey, Kat and Laura and their so's have become absolute treasures to me in the past year and a half and have nourished my mind and spirit in so many more ways than I could possibly recount in the confines of this blog. From book club conversations that spill into life conversations to life celebrations to just down right heart felt gatherings that always include yummy foods where you can just see and feel the love we share for another pouring out of handmade pom-pom decorations, hearty bowls of soup, special soba, soba buckwheat noodle dishes, garden table settings, simple spots of tea, cheese, glorious Yosemite camping trips, surprise tickets to the Nutcraker etc etc etc - a day, an afternoon or an hour with these girls never ceases to make "my cup runneth over." I share with these women a gratitude for the small things in life and the power of this common ground has created a pretty amazing dynamic. The simple sweetnesses in life are what it's all about in my mind and I love that when I am with Laura, Kat or Lindsey, I can gush about what may seem like the simplest thing and they don't think I'm crazy, in fact they join right in -praising the beauty of a gingko biloba leaf, the slow but steady (or not so steady) progress of home grown vegetables, the brilliant colors of fall, the unending fun of a simple picnic in the park, or backyard barbeque, the love in a bunch of hydrangeas in mason jars on a table populated by people who mean the world to you. These women amaze me- they each have a way of putting forth a little extra effort and a unique personal touch to make simple occasions feel absolutely elegant and exotic.

And as if these girls aren't enough, I also got to share 2010 with an absolutely amazing man. Absolutely amazing. We celebrated our one year anniversary on Nov. 21st (Friend family Thanksgiving where we met for the first time last year) AND Dec. 19th (our first official date) and I have just loved every moment of the past year with him, from trail runs to roof top gardening to Salt Lake and Arches road trips to birthday BBQs with the WHOLE fam (who I just adore) to Minneapolis weddings to strawberry jam and pickle making adventures, to grad school support services, to hosting Friend Thanksgiving #2, to Thanksgiving trips in San Diego to reading books out loud on long road trips together, to first time cross country skiing experiences to simply cuddling on the couch and relaxing together - this man speaks straight to my heart. There's so much I could share about how much I love him and how amazing I think he is - but for the sake of saving you from a never-ending story, I'll share one of my favorite parts about him as of late... Whenever we are packing up to go somewhere or getting ready in the morning or making food together, he asks the simplest, but sweetest question, he says, "What can I do to support you?" I just love this so much about him - it completely captures his selflessness. He is always thinking of little things that he can do to make others happy or to help them in whatever task is in front of them - big or small. In the mornings when I'm getting ready, he makes my tea for me (without me even asking!) just the way I like because it usually takes me twice the amount of time to get ready. The other day on our XC ski trip, he packed a surprise thermos of hot chocolate because the day before we left I had been going on and on about how fun it would be to have some hot cocoa while we were out on the trails. They're simple things, but he does them with so much love that they bring me to tears and more than anything make me believe that our relationship is a caring partnership, one that we are in together and one that is up for any challenge.

Through the good and bad of 2010, it is companionship as well as a constant search for beauty in this world that have sustained and reinvigorated me. I am endlessly grateful for the people I am blessed to share this life with and for a life perspective that constantly pushes me to search for and find beauty in even the simplest things.

On that note, I am simply so excited about the challenges and the fun that I am sure 2011 will bring! Here is to a year of loving loved ones and being awe-struck by the beauty that truly is all around us.

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Simple Pleasures

1) Extra date nights with loverboy because yay! his semester is over!

2) Watching Glee on the night it airs instead of Tivo-ing and watching when loverboy finally has a night off.

3) Champagne with a maraschino cherry

4) Holiday cards - I love all the photos and year updates!

5) Wine lite cubes

6) Sharing Laura's amazing pomegranate, grapefruit salad with co-workers and getting loads of compliments!

7) Incredibly generous donation from an F4L sibling for the family that we are "adopting" for Christmas.

8) Arriving home to a package on my front door - yay my holiday cards are here!

9) A boyfriend who always answers the phone saying, Hello beautiful.

Sunday, December 12, 2010

YAAAAAAY!

Joe's done with his first semester of grad school!!! Wooooohoooo! After a fall full of weekends spent reading and writing around the clock, yesterday at 4pm, I got a g-chat saying he had finished his day of final assessments - I swear I heard angels rejoicing! I couldn't be more proud of that guy and I couldn't be more excited for him to finally get the chance to get some rest in the next couple of weeks and for us to get to see a little bit more of each other.

Last night his 'cohort' had a celebration - I hadn't met any of his classmates yet but I had heard lots of stories and it was so nice to finally be able to put names with faces. And gosh on top of that, everyone was just so genuine and friendly - combine that with an overwhelming feeling of relief with Joe being done and I was just bubbling over.

After a little meetin' and greetin' with the PLI folks, Joe and I headed off for a celebration dinner of our own. ooooooh and boy was it a fun one. We had reservations at a restaurant in Berkeley that we've been wanting to try for a few months - Gather. Oh my goodness, I LOVE this place - if you find yourself in Berkeley any time soon - I definitely recommend it. The whole place has been decorated with re-purposed materials - the booth I sat on was made of old belts! and some of the tables, countertops were made with bleachers from a local gym. They are big on using local and in season ingredients which I totally dig too.

We started the meal off with a house specialty - the Vegan 'Charcuterie'. Four words - Declious and Super-creative! This included the following served on a beautiful wooden cutting board;
1) mushroom tartar, parsnip 'lardo' wth roasted garlic,
2) pear 'carpaccio', smoked persimmon and celery root - the smokiness of this dish combined with the sweet, thing pear was out of this world!
3) Grilled watermelon radish 'steak' leek 'butter' horseradish salsa verde and pomegranate,
4) oyster mushroom crudo, 'tonnato' sauce and avocado in a crispy sea leaf palm 5) roasted carnival squash, sunchoke cashew bay leaf sauce, smoked maple.

Holy Appetizer!!! I'm a dummy and forgot my camera so no pics of this unfortunatley. Joe then ordered the boar with braised fagiole beans (deelish - they were braised in bacon skin and chicken stock) and fennel salad. I ordered the mushroom pizza - both ah-mazing! I can't imagine any better place or way to celebrate all of Joe's hard work this fall!

Today has been simply heavenly - an entire day with no pressing work to get done. We woke up this morning and headed out to our favorite east bay running spot and the site of our first date (which was a year ago next Sunday!). Yup, I love that this is our east bay running spot - it's just so beautiful and conjures up all kinds of fun memories!!! And well, you'd think that since we had the whole day we'd do something wild and crazy, but we once again found ourselves in the kitchen whipping up some orange marmalade and a big pot of chicken soup. And I have to say, I wouldn't have had today any other way - I just love that we enjoy spending time creating things together in the kitchen to share.

Here's a couple pics of the orange marmalade we made today - the color makes my heart sing - nice and bright and cheery for a cold winter morning :).







Happy week of holiday merrymaking!

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Whoopie!

Whoopie! Kat got a new mixer - Moxie the Mixer is what she's called. We christened Moxie yesterday and whooped up batch of adorable Pumpkin Whoopie Pies!

Isn't she beautiful! Kat AND Moxie the mixer!


Mixing made unbelievably easy!

The cookies turned out moist and spongy - yummy!

A little cream cheese, lots of butter and 1 jar of mallow creme later - it's time to stuff these puppies.

And voila - aren't they cute?! Whoopie!

Besides whooping it up with Kat, life is full of xmas shopping, 8th grade girls bball coaching, falling in love with my recent book club book - The Elegance of the Hedgehog - just finished it last week and I think it's going to be added to my top 10 list, and brainstorming my next book club book pick - so far, these are the front runners - The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lack, Let the Great World Spin, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, The History of Love.

Happy week to ya! Hope it's full of making progress on your xmas shopping, neighborhoods sparkling with holiday lights and peppermint hot cocoa sipping!

Monday, November 29, 2010

Ahhhhhhh...

Forgot to mention that this Thanksgiving vacation was one of the most restorative vacations I've had in a while. I left the bay on Wednesday, feeling exhausted and on the verge of getting sick - but by Sunday, with a few good nights of sleep under my belt and a total break from routine - I felt healthier than I've felt in a long time. I'm harnessing this feeling and holding on to it as long as possible, and once again reminding myself that sometimes the most urgent thing you can choose in the midst of life's craziness - is REST.

Joe meets the fam...

San Diego Thanksgiving 2010 rocked. I just love getting to spend time in the kitchen with my family, cooking and laughing and feasting - and this year getting to bring Joe home to meet the family for the first time was an extra big treat. He fit right in, just like I knew he would and it couldn't make me happier to have all these people that I love so much together in one place. Oooh and this year, we had a few more special guests - the Ford fam - so glad that Tom, Kristina and Garrett could join us!

Thanksgiving is a big, team effort in our home and I just love this tradition of ours. All of us gathered in my parent's beautiful kitchen with various food operations happening simultaneously - little chaos and a lot of laughter!

I just love my sister so much!

Here she is gettin' sassy with her sweet potatoes!

A little mom and grandma love.

My grandpa's job = mimosa sipping. He kept stealing my grandma's mimosa - adorable, isn't he!?

After a big run with Joe on Friday morning to work off our Thanksgiving meal (Have I told you that I LOVE that Joe and I can run together!! It was so fun to show him some of my favorite home town trails!) we took a family field trip to Stone Brewery in San Diego. Lots of yummy beers to choose from!

Saturday, after a coffee date with Niki, Whit, Maria, Curran and Amber, we made our way to the coast so Joe could see a little of the San Diego sweet life! Shorts at the beach in November!






Let the holiday season begin!!


Monday, November 22, 2010

Gratitude

If you didn't already know - Thanksgiving is hands down, my all time favorite holiday. Gathering around a table of yummy food with a group of loved ones and simply giving thanks for the many blessings that are all around us - just may be what it's all about in my book. And well, in the past year Thanksgiving has become even more special to me.

Last November, Lindsey and Nate started a tradition of holding a Thanksgiving Part I for our friend family here in the bay. Lindsey, Kat and Laura had come into my life about 6 months earlier at a time when I was feeling hurt and lonely and there were many days during that time that I felt so overwhelmed with gratitude for these women, that the tears would just flood uncontrollably. The connection that I feel to these girls is something that I truly give thanks for every day. These women have nurtured my spirit - through craft days, book clubs, sprout dinners, coupa cafe dates, bruschetta offs, blog comments, doodling dates, Yosemite trips and on and on. Our friendship is one for the books - it's not something you find every day and well quite honestly, I feel like one of the luckiest girls in the world to call Laura, Kat and Lindsey friends.

Last year, Thanksgiving grew for me. Beyond a holiday spent with blood relatives, Thanksgiving grew to be about the precious family and communities we build for ourselves as adults, and it's funny because just when I thought it wasn't possible to contain anymore joy - this community opened up a whole new space inside of me, allowing a little more joy in.

And as if it wasn't enough to be surrounded by these women and their so's on Thanksgiving last year, there was also a SUPER, CUTE boy there! Yep, that's right - Loverboy himself graced us with his presence and his incredible blue eyes. I remember walking into Nate and Lindsey's, saying hello to everyone and then being introduced to Joe and just being mesmerized by his eyes. Kat conveniently sat us next to one another at the dinner table, and well, the rest is history folks.

Joe and I talk about how appropriate it is that we met on Thanksgiving (a fav. holiday for both of us) because gratitude is a central part of our outlooks on life and we feel so thankful for having met one another.

We felt honored to get to host the Thanksgiving Part I dinner (Northwest style) this year - as a celebration of our friendship and also as a celebration of us. Yesterday morning, I ran out to do some gingko leaf scavenging for decoration and when I returned Joe had a card and a pretty little box waiting for me. We have been celebrating December 19th as our anniversary - the day of our first date. But in his card, Joe said that he felt that this day was our real anniversary and a bunch of other things that made me cry. HOW DID I GET LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE SUCH A SWEET MAN IN MY LIFE? My cup runneth over...

We came together again for Thanksgiving Part I, Part II yesterday at my place and and the bottom line is

I am just so grateful....


For these incredible people.

For this incredible man.


For some damn good salmon.




For some amazing butternut squash soup, mashed potatoes, stuffing, pomegranate and grapefruit salad, cider, cabbage etc!

For sparkplug friends like Kat who conveniently arrange to sit you next to the cute boy and for Laura's amazing craftiness on these beautiful abalone name place settings.


For games of cards so intense they make you sweat and burn off your dinner.


and for the simplicity of a beautiful table to gather around the people who mean the most to you.

Happy Thanksgiving to you! May you also overflow with gratitude.

P.S. Stop by Dancing Kitchen to read Kat's take on the day :).